Sunday, March 21, 2010

Talking and Wining



No, that's not a typo. I didn't mean "whining" or even "winning," I meant "wining". But, I'll get to that shortly.

Over the last couple weeks, I've had a couple people mention the fact that there hasn't been a Strange and Benevolent entry in nearly a month. Some people have even gone so far as to check in to make sure that nothing had gone wrong. Luckily, everything has been fine. It's just been that that combination of workin' and baby-raisin' which we call life has kept us busy and distracted enough that neither Sarah nor I have had the chance to really sit down and type an entry. Still, I know we have friends and family near and far that need their Stella fix, so let's check in with her, shall we?

Talking?
Actually, she's not quite forming full sentences yet. But, now that she's mastered the art of walking, it definitely seems like Stella's focus has turned to communicating with us, both verbally and otherwise. It probably also helps that recently we've been watching a baby sign language video with her, and she seems to actually be picking up a few signs from that.

So, since I have a feeling that the coming months will introduce a veritable tidal wave of verbage, I thought it might be nice to take a snapshot of where her vocabular sits today.

Words:

"Kitty" - She's been saying "kitty" actually for months and months now. It was easily her first word, and beat pretty much the rest of her vocabular to the punch by about a good 6 months. To this day, pretty much any animal is a "kitty," though felines still get the loudest and clearist exclamations.

"Key" - She picked up this one as soon as she discovered that her favorite thing to play with pretty much shared the same word as her favorite animal (see above).

"Mama," "Papa" and "Granpa" - Probably a little wishful thinking here. But, we feel like we've caught all three of these on various, random occasions.

"Mum-mum" - This is the name of what was one of her favorite snacks, a rice cake called mum-mums. We also found out later that it is the Indonesian word for "eat" ...which makes sense, since Tirza speaks Indonesian around Stella daily. Pretty much any snack seems to be a mum-mum.

"Bwu-bwu" - Her version of a dog barking. And, by default, her word for dog.
Likewise...

"Ah-ah-ah" - Her monkey sound, and default word for monkey.

"Brrrrrr" - Probably the most rare and random Stella word. We own a vibrating frog-shaped massager (similar to this). Stella is pretty obsessed with it. This is her basically her imitating the sound it makes when turned on and placed on the hardwood floor.

"Ba-ba" - This one is a bit of a mystery. It's either A) "Bottle" or B) "Bye-bye" or C) "Ball." ...or maybe all three. We haven't quited pinned it down yet.

Signs:

Waving and blowing kisses - Departing guests are usually treated to waves goodbye and, if they are lucky, some blown kisses. Passing buses, airplanes flying overhead and even the occasional flushed toilet also receive waves goodbye.

Nodding and shaking her head "yes" and "no" - After a couple months of mixed signals, she's now pretty dependable with both nodding and shaking her head in response to questions.

"Milk" - Probably her most dependable true sign-language sign. We were amazed when she learned this one after only watching the sign-language video once.

"Cracker" - She sometimes does the sign-language sign for cracker, though I think she uses it for "snack" in general.

"Dog" - In addition to her usual "bwu-bwu" she also sometimes pats her leg at the same time, the sign for "dog."

"More" - Stella learning this sign might be opening some sort of Pandora's box... but for now we are enjoying her being able to let us know if she wants more milk, dinner, etc.

"Thirsty/Hungry/Teething" - In addition to the milk and cracker signs, she also has a generic mouth rubbing gesture she's been doing for months which is her default if she is thisty... or hungry ...or her mouth hurts ...or just wants something.

"???" - Usually when asking Stella where something is, Sarah and I will turn our hands upward and cock our heads to one side with a confused look on our faces. Often, Stella will mirror this gesture as if to respond "I don't know!"

In addition to all these, it's impressive how much she seems to understand these days, even if she can't respond with words. Talking about changing her diapers will cause her to cry. Asking her to go get her shoes will send her hunting around the house. Asking her to pick up some trash and put it in the garbage will usually get results (if she wants to throw it away).

Through this array for words and gestures, its amazing to feel like we are finally having "conversations" with her and each day we find ourselves communicating more and more with this little person who shares our house and lives.

And, in addition, she is still good at communicating her opinion of certain things. For example, this is her saying "Stormtroopers are scary."



Wining?

In addition to work and Stella, wine-making and tasting has definitely also kept Sarah and I pretty busy. Last month, we bottled the '08 wine we'd been making and moved the whole wine-making operation from my parents' house to the wine-making room that my dad and I have been building in the back of our garage.

Pumping the '08 wine from the barrel to a carboy. Sometimes wine-making has a definite "mad scientist" feel to it.

My dad moves the empty wine barrel from the crawlspace under his house where it's lived for the past couple years.

The whole operation, plus the newly bottled wine, in the back of my dad's truck.

Looking through our garage into the new "wine room." There's still some work to be done, but its coming along.

Fellow winemaker, Gary, sterilizes the mouth of the barrel after putting the '09 Syrah into it.

The '08 Stella Rose's Stellar Red!

In addition to winemaking, we also got to do some wine tasting with friends last weekend. It turns out that there are a half dozen wineries just down the hill from our house. We ended up only making it to a couple (one had eight wines available for tasting), so hopefully we'll be able to try more next month.

Sarah and our friend, Stephanie, taste wine at Cadence Winery. (I'm blaming the blurriness of the photo on the camera... not on the wine intake of the photographer.)

Hopefully, Sarah and I will get back in the blogging habit, and you won't all have to wait another month until our next entry. But, until then, just remember, these boots were made for walking!

Sunday, February 28, 2010

Guaranteed Mood Enhancer




Funniest thing ever

And, in case that wasn't enough, a few recent Stella photos....




All dressed up for Lucy's 1st birthday



Who's a girly girl? Kitty in a purse!



Going to the Children's Museum. Stella insisted on the red jacket.


Somebody has decided that in addition to their Soothies, they have a favorite blankie.



Green polka dot PJs and the panda hat



Just a happy Sunday morning. Yes, Stella is totally pinching my cheek.

Friday, February 19, 2010

Teething Pain for All of Us



This hasn't been the easiest week. Stella's teething again--molars this time, which seem to be exceptionally painful and troublesome. It makes sense--they are bigger and broader. So it's been a week of drooling, fretting, sleeping very poorly, and general unhappiness. Add two increasingly sleep-deprived parents to the mix, and you're looking at a worn out, less patient household.

But she is getting to be quite a walker:


Stella seemed to be on some kind of weird feedback loop--with each bite, she'd take a lap. Watch this video, then realize this was after about 7 laps and before another couple....

Now that Stella's walking, she has a little more post-bath naked time, wandering around between getting dried off and put into PJs.


Naked baby walking--we couldn't resist. It's so cute and ridiculous!


Her abandoned bath toys look so sad....

Tonight after her bath she came up to me resting on the couch (did I mention getting up every four hours last night?) and cuddled up on my chest, just like she did as a newborn. So despite my exhaustion, low patience and eagerness for her to get some much needed rest, it was a very sweet moment.


Seeing Stella like this reinforces just how much she's grown.

Sunday, February 14, 2010

Happy Valentine's Day




Stella with one of her Valentines


The Valentine Ladybug

PS Stella is offically a walker!

Friday, February 12, 2010

Top 10 Ways Raising a Baby is like Travelling



As I type this entry, I realize I run the risk of sounding like an aging, paunchy former quarterback, reliving his high school glory days. This Sunday, Valentine's Day, marks the three year anniversary of our departure for our round the world trip. Three years (how is that possible?) since we left and we kicked off this blog. In some ways, it all still feels so immediate and relevant. In other ways, our life is so settled and changed that gallivanting around the world seems like a distant experience. Maybe some of these things help keep it closer even as it does grow more distant with time.


Leaving for our 7 month trip


Starting our adventure in parenting

In no particular order:

1. Different bathroom priorities.

In Bolivia and Eastern Europe, it was finding bathrooms you didn't have to pay for. In other places, it was just some basic--and fairly broadly defined--level of hygiene. Now it's about changing tables. Better yet, changing tables in the men's and women's room. Couch to sit on for nursing gets extra bonus points (go, Nordstrom!).

2. Different eating requirements

While travelling, it was often about finding food that wouldn't come back to haunt us later. Now, it's about high chairs, relatively friendly (or at least understanding) wait staff, and-oddly, and increasingly--some kinds of kids options. Stella eats enough now, that it's not even always enough to just feed her off of our plates!

3. Regular language barriers.

In Budapest, a nice woman who spoke Hungarian and German tried to help give us directions. Until after we were finished talking, I thought she was asking us for directions. Now, I get to interpret Stella's mouth rubbing: could mean she wants water, could be food, could be milk, could be soothie, could be something I can never quite figure out. And then there's the incredibly high-pitched squeal that we're trying hard to keep from meaning anything to discourage her from continuing making that noise.

4. Everything takes longer than expected.

In India, we'd rush to make a bus only to spend the next 2 hours circling around town picking up other passengers. Things are getting easier as Stella gets older, but everything takes me longer. Responding to emails. Getting to the post office. Going to the grocery store. Getting out the door.

5. Lots more regular exposure to bodily fluids.

Particulary in India, I could hardly turn around without seeing a man urinating on the street. Before Stella started eating real food, the diapers weren't so bad, but now they are pretty stinky and gross. And I got thrown up on three times during one particular illness.

6. Irregular sleeping patterns.

In Turkey and Egypt, it was night buses that made Tyler cranky and miserable. And, of course, there was just the jet lag from moving across time zones. Now it's Stella's occasional still-too-frequent middle of the night wakings that make us both a little crazy.

7. Harder to maintain usual grooming standards.

In the last year, I managed to get my haircut two times, and Tyler regular gets a little mountain-man-esque between trips to the barbershop. Not so different from our days in Tasmania and Kenya.

8. More opportunities to be present.

I'm a list-maker. I'm generally thinking ahead, thinking of what needs to be done, when we'll get certain things accomplished. This has it positive sides, but it also means that I can get so caught up in thinking ahead that I don't enjoy the moment I'm in. Travelling can often give you an opportunity to take stock, and see your world with new eyes. Stella forces me to slow down and be. To slow down and appreciate little things--the view outside the front window, the sound of the neighbor's dog barking, birds eating in the lawn.

9. More interactions with strangers/locals

Coming home from the trip, I remember feeling a little sad that we'd have less opportunity to talk to random people. Sure, part of it is just being out and about less and having a close circle of friends that we already don't get to see often enough--it just is less of a necessity and opportunity in life at home. But being pregnant and having a baby changes that. Stella will stare people down, and people are often just drawn to smile at babies, looking for a reaction. And people with babies will often at least exchange names, ages and a little bit of commiseration. It's nice to have that little connection with people.

10. Increasing savviness as time goes on

By the time Tyler and I were in Egypt, we were hip to the usual scams, not afraid to fight the crowds at the train station to try and buy tickets on our own rather than get stuck in some kind of tour or package deal. We knew what to look for in a hostel, a restaurant, how we wanted to spend our time. While Stella's ever changing, I do feel like I keep gaining confidence and comfort in my role as a parent. I'm learning her personality and needs and wants, and my own way of parenting. I still have days when my patience wears thin and I'm frustrated by not being able to be as efficient and productive as I might like, but it's easier and easier to get things done, have fun and spend quality time together.


Adventures still to come....

Sunday, February 7, 2010

A Sometimes Walker



Stella still isn't consistently walking, but she is walking more often and for more steps....

Tuesday, February 2, 2010

Yes!



Our campaign of "yes" against the constant barrage of "no"s seems to have worked....